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TIPS FOR SETTING CODE OF CONDUCTS:
Rules must be few and really important.
Rule is a power play. Studies show that increased rules
and commands increase opposition.
Be Firm & Specific in tone, manner,
Be certain you’re right so
that you don’t feel guilty and lack confidence
when you enforce the rules. Look straight into his
eyes to show respect. Hold or touch their hands or
shoulder to help focus.
Be firm in your wording. Speak in
a strong tone without being hostile or nasty. Study
of “Difficult-to-control” children shows
that they ignore commands because orders were given
in a weak tone of voice.
Wording should be specific, not vague.
Redirect to positive behavior whenever
possible. Frequently when God tells us not to do certain
things, He’ll tell us to focus on something positive.
Therefore, when we tell children “no”, redirect
their attention and focus to something more positive.
Be realistic and enforceable: Don’t
expect kids to sit in a small room for a whole hour. A
general rule of thumb for attention span is 1 min. per
year of age. Varying your activities and space will extend
attention span. Be consistent in enforcing the rules.
Set up behavioral contracts: Allow children
a voice into what’s important as rules for the class.
Whenever possible, explain why the rules are important.
Not: “Do it because I say so. I’m the teacher.”
Give advance notice before enforcement.
by Isabel Ng